Saturday, November 04, 2006

The Pygmalion complex

So I'm sitting here, eating my lunch, watching Dr. 90210. It's trash TV, I know, but I've had a tough week and need to decompress. One of the surgeons, Dr. Motykie, is single and just starting out in the profession. He was talking about dating in Los Angeles - how it's "strange" (tell me about it.)

Anyway, I was sympathizing with this dude for a second. I was surprised when he said, "For a plastic surgeon who's dating, personality is the most important thing to look for." Hey, I was impressed. Then again, if you're surrounded by people who are obsessed with their own reflections all day long (Botox parties are very popular here), I imagine that it would make you rather philosophical about beauty.

But then, he added, "We look for personality, because we can change anything else we want."


I guess when you're a plastic surgeon, every potential wife is a Stepford wife - a fixer-upper that walks and talks.

I think I just threw up in my mouth a little. Should have known better than to eat while watching this show.



Blogger Circe said...

That's my fav trash-TV show but I can't say I am familiar with that doctor. Hmmm...

Yeah, fixer-upper indeed. I think some celebrities marry plastic surgeons so they can get their work done for free.

2:10 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

First of all, he was kidding and definitely not serious about that comment! Sounds as though you are a bitter girl. Second of all, he has performed amazing surgeries. He's extremely gifted and intelligent. Why don't you check out his resume on


2:45 PM  
Blogger Ginger said...

First of all, he was kidding and definitely not serious about that comment!

How do you know that?

he has performed amazing surgeries

Even if he has, that has no bearing on what he said. Have you ever read the Pygmalion story?

Sounds as though you are a bitter girl.

According to what evidence? I've never had plastic surgery, and don't want any. Don't need it.

check out his resume

Once again, even if his resume is amazing, it doesn't make what he said any less gross.

5:37 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

At least he's looking for a personality in a person - far more than what others are looking for.

4:29 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Sounds as though you are jealous! And I do know him very personally. He's a great guy with a great personality and great brains. Far more than you can probably offer anyone. Sorry...but you are quite bitter to jump on one comment!

4:31 AM  
Blogger Ginger said...

At least he's looking for a personality in a person - far more than what others are looking for.

And then he'll create the face and body that should match it? This doesn't sound weird to anybody but me?

Sounds as though you are jealous

Of what?

He's a great guy with a great personality and great brains

And Stepford tendencies...

Far more than you can probably offer anyone.

I guess that's true - I'm flawed, but au naturel. No plastic. The horror!

you are quite bitter to jump on one comment!.

Since when is pointing out the obvious a sign of bitterness?

12:32 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dr. Gary Motykie is disgusting, I agree. And I have no problem admitting that I'm "jealous" of his resume, but if I could have his resume and accomplishments and HAD to take his personality? Not even. The dude is scary- the things he says regarding women is totally alarming and dangerous. If I were able to decide, I'd say hes not ethically, morally, or mentally competant to be anywhere near a woman and knife. He's a sick-00 mentalcase.

1:50 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

As far as him "joking" yeah, I get that his comment was "joke." I personally think that you can tell a lot about someones character by what they find funny, and the fact he would make such an idiotic statement at all shows complete disrespect towards humanity. I'm not not even remotely kidding. This guy is a freakbomb.

2:04 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You appear to construct sentences intelligently but your all or nothing routine is ridiculous. From one comment you feel you can psychoanalyze a person - a psychiatrist you're not!

Au naturel isn't always better. I am by choice as well as I don't need it, but I pity the people you hang with as far as being so judgmental.

Tisk tisk

9:57 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I could swear this is Gary making these comments in his own defense. I don't want to put anyone in a defensive state of mind, as a defensive person is a scared person, and fear is what creates psychos like "Dr. Motykie" in the first place. In anycase, I embrace myself and my judgemental abilities as gifts, and I appreciate my innate ability to forecast future events via current tendencies. It is my feeling, a urgent one at that, that this man is dangerous. I'm getting the word out. If he isn't then great, but informing people or perhaps sharing an insight that others may be too "nice girly" to say, does not get anyone anywhere, but allows those who are evil to abuse their power. Being nice is great, but stating an opinion is nothing that I personally am going to feel ashamed about.


6:29 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well...intuitive you're definitely not so get that egotistical idea out of your head. I'm just a person that is commenting on a person's blog that I feel is laughable. I'm certainly not ashamed at all at voicing my opinions either.

You're a paranoid schizophrenic! LMAO

7:39 PM  
Blogger Ginger said...

Okay kids, everybody needs to calm down.

Let's get back to the reason that I wrote this post in the first place, and lay off the personal attacks, okay? The next person to make a personal attack gets deleted. Please stick to the topic at hand.

I didn't write this post just to pick on Dr. Motykie. In fact, thanks to some of the responses that I've seen in this thread, I regret mentioning him by name. I'm quite sure that he's not the only plastic surgeon to ever make that kind of comment. I took issue with what he said because I feel that his statement is indicative of a serious problem in our society - that women should change their appearances to please others, because what we were born with isn't good enough.

I don't feel that Dr. Motykie is dangerous or disgusting. I can understand why he said what he said. He's young, and very highly financially rewarded to play God with people's (read: women's) bodies.

It's possible that Dr. Motykie (and most plastic surgeons) have done fantastic reconstructive work that has changed people's lives for the better, but that doesn't make me feel any better about what he said in that particular episode. A person's natural body isn't just a jumping-off point to Barbiehood, but a lot of people in our society are starting to believe otherwise.

6:39 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I concur. I do become quite angry when I feel people are abusing their power, and personal attacks are an unfortunate outcome of this discomfort. No matter. I hope everyone is happy and plastic surgeons around the world find happiness with a significant other whose body the would do anything NOT to change! Peace.

1:29 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It's funny because in every camera angle I've seen, they never seem to show the gun that's pointed to the woman's head forcing her to have plastic surgery.

Yes, I'm laying the sarcasm on rather thick.

3:29 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

In the defence of Dr Motykie.
I truelly believe that his comment shouldnot be taken seriously.
I think he's brillant and you guys are just jealous and seriously need to get a life!!!

6:40 AM  
Blogger Ginger said...

Anon, would you give it up with the jealousy thing already? Is that the best comment you can come up with?

11:06 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I just want to let all of you know I have known Gary for 20 years. I met him when we were in high school. We dated on and off over the years. And let me tell you, he is one of the most level headed, intelligent people I have ever met. He comes from a solid wonderful family who are the most down to earth people you could ever meet! And believe me, Gary will never end up with the typical LA airhead beauty. It is not his style. Unless the woman has a great deal to offer intelligence wise and can engage him in interesting conversation, she doesn't chance in hell! Give the guy a break! He was just kidding with his statement!

7:06 AM  
Anonymous Nicholas said...

Dr. Motykie is HAWT!

He may be a little odd, but but I'm so happy when he's on TV :)

So, I don't care what he says.

8:39 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

There is NO way that he is disgusting or dangerous!! He is brilliant and caring and does amazing work! Whoever thinks that he's a mentalcase really needs to get a life!

11:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

If you've known Gary for 20 years and dated him, you would know that he is into the airhead women. He has dated strippers before....and not the good looking ones either. You must have stopped talking after high school....people change.
p.s. I know Gary as well.

12:08 PM  
Blogger Ginger said...

I think it's hilarious that people are still making comments on this thread a year after I posted.

4:14 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think this blog is stupid ....Life is what it is .........surgeons perform surgery , they have a life everyone is entitled to make whatever they want out of their own lives , therefore even if it is on air on tv people shouldnt be focusing on other aspects besides surgery when watching this tv show, because dr 90210 is not a dating service tips or neither it is about therapy on how we should perceive people or anything like that if you know this tv show is trash and you keep watching it for any reason ....this means what it

8:22 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have no idea how long ago this starting getting posted or when the last time it was commented or anything, but to me that doesn't matter. What matters to me is that Gary Motykie is my uncle. I was randomly googling him cause my friends and I were talking about him. This happen to come up and so I decided to check it out cause I was the wording disgusting. I am not going to make comments on anything you wrote even though I want to REALLY bad. I just want to let you know in a little secret. He specialized in plastic surgery of reconstructing hands. There just isn't really a high demand for that right now. That is all.

7:13 PM  
Blogger Ginger said...

Jesus effing CHRIST, people! This post was made A YEAR AND A HALF AGO. Would everybody get over it already?

10:38 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey ladies. I met with the guy and found him incredibly talented, smart, very approachable, classy and overall very nice. I sat and chatted with him for about 45 minutes during my consult and there was nothing disgusting about him. Quite the opposite actually - very attractive guy for sure. I am surprised he dated a stripper (according to a blogger) because he did not strike me as that type but you never know. I am sure there are women waiting in line just to have him say hello so I am sure he won't have ANY trouble finding a girl. The guy is a jokester, that I can say. I can see how come people would freak out.

3:48 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I've met him to reconstruct my face. Who cares if he dated a stripper (or stripperS)? A guy needs to get his jollies somehow. It's not like he's married to a stripper or hooker, so I think you guys need to relax. He's a perfectly lovely doctor (fantastic at what he does), and a really nice guy to talk to, so I couldn't care less who he finds that makes him happy.

6:33 PM  
Blogger Ginger said...

Good luck to you. I hope he's as good as they say, and that your surgery goes well.

3:59 PM  

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